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How To Know If You Are In a Toxic Friendship

I for one know how difficult it can be to continue in a toxic friendship. It's one of those strange things that you don't realise is bad for you until you are deep into it. Even when you do realise, it can be difficult to escape as it can feel as if there is an invisible tie that is keeping the two of you together. Well, this is the time to break that tie and think about whether your friendship is toxic.

You Feel Like You Can't Trust Them

One of the reasons to have friends is to be able to vent to them and talk about your woes, but if you feel like you can't trust them, then you won't be able to. If there is something embarrassing that you feel sad about and want to tell someone, there's no way you would be able to if you think that they will just go and tell other people. If you feel this way around a 'friend', then they are toxic.

They Criticise You

It's enough that as people, we hear that little voice inside our head tell us we're not good enough, but hearing it outside your head from a so called friend is not cool. Why criticise a friend? Firstly, they are probably doing it because it makes them feel better about themselves and secondly, if they are really your friend, then they should love you for you and not try to constantly change you through criticism.

Your Self-Esteem Takes a Hit

From personal experience, spending time with a toxic friend can often mean you become anxious and start to feel bad about yourself. Trust me, you are not the problem. If you only feel this way when being around a specific friend, then they are making you feel this way. Never let anyone dim your light and if they are, it may be time to cut them loose.

You Dread Seeing Their Message

Picking up your phone and seeing a message from someone you like is a great feeling, but someone you don't... that great feeling very quickly turns into dread. You know it, that pit in your stomach and the million thoughts of what things they might have said to you. Why bother wasting time with people who not only are bad for you when you see them, but you actually hate getting messages from as well?

How Do You Feel After You See Them?

The true way to see if your friendship is toxic, is to judge how you feel after you see them. Do you feel happy and excited to see them again? Or do you feel drained and dread the next time you have to endure their company? If it is the latter then maybe this friendship just isn't working. Only you can decide if you need space from them, so listen to what your body is telling you and never feel bad about it.

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